The First Session
You already know the problem you're carrying; that's why you're here. So I'm not going to sell you on coaching. I'm just going to tell you exactly what a first call is like, so booking one doesn't feel like stepping into the dark.
Before the call
The most common worry I hear before a first call is some version of "what do I even say?" Here's the whole answer: bring one thing. One knot you keep circling; one situation, one pattern, one question.
You don't need to write up your life or get the wording right. If it all comes pouring out at once, that's fine too; a life-dump can be its own kind of relief. But sessions tend to converge on a single thread anyway, and that thread almost always opens onto the bigger picture. So one thing is plenty to start.
The answer to "what do I even say?" is just: bring one thing.
During the call
We say hi, and we start. You talk about your one thing, in your own words. My main job early on is to listen to how you say it: the tone you use, the exact words you reach for, the small silences where you're quietly judging yourself.
You don't need to explain your whole history or build a case first; often the preamble matters less than how you talk about the thing right now. When there's a next step, it usually surfaces on its own, out of the way you tell it, and we follow that in deeper.
You don't have to drive. You just have to talk.
The one thing to know
The other thing I hear constantly, and not just from new people (from folks who've worked with me for months) is "can I tell you something embarrassing?" or "this is going to sound stupid, but...". So let me take that off the table right now.
I've sat with a very wide range of people, across very different cultures, through a lot of what a person can feel and do. Whatever you've been carrying quietly, the odds it surprises me, or makes me think you're uniquely messed up, are basically zero.
And whatever you say stays in the room. This isn't therapy, so there's no formal HIPAA wrapped around it; I just treat it that way, completely. What you bring is yours, and it stays here.
After the call
I'm not going to promise you'll walk away fixed, or hand you a five-step plan. Here's what tends to happen instead. By the end, I've opened a lot of windows in your mind. Some you'll close again; some the wind closes for you; some let a little dust out, some let a bug in. But whatever you do with any of it, you leave seeing your own problem in a different light.
Here's the part people don't expect: you have a story you tell about your problem, and you've told it so many times, in the same tone, with the same words, that it slips right past you now; it's too optimized to feel. For the first time in a long while, you get to meet that same thing as something new, almost foreign.
And you tend to leave with less shame. You start to see how much of this is just cause and effect doing what it does, as ordinary as a tissue getting wet when it wipes up water, rather than proof that everyone else is fine and you're the one failing.
Most people put it more simply than any of that. They just say: "I have a lot to think about."
One session, or more
You can come once. A single session is complete in itself; you don't have to sign up for anything.
If you decide to keep going, it's for the same reason people keep taking lessons in anything they're serious about. You can learn to meditate on your own, but without a guide it quietly turns into an overthinking party. It's similar here: you'll leave with new perspectives, and the very human trap is to grab one and decide this is the right way to see things now.
My job over time is the opposite; to keep your mind adaptable, so you're not just trading one fixed frame for another. That takes a little course-correction, and that's what later sessions are for. None of it is a decision you have to make today.
The practical bits
$100 · 60 minutes · one thing on your mind.